The Fiercest of Friends
My dear bloggers, I am normally witty and fun, loud and boisterous, sarcastic and occasionally inappropriate. I'm a little wild, a lot of crazy, and have so many, many faults. But there is one thing that I cannot be faulted in. Being a friend.
You know how they say small waters run deep? That is me to a t. It's true I don't trust easily and I don't trust many people. I don't let people in, and once you've lost my trust it's nearly impossible to earn again. Possible, but very, very hard. While most would consider these faults there is a flip side to that. To have my trust is to have the fiercest of friends in your corner. One who is loyal to a fault, a straight shooter when you're wrong, who guards your back in a firefight, who supports you, who fights for you, who will never leave you when things get hard, who slaps you upside the head when you need it, who protects you against those who would do you harm, and who won't give you up without proof of your wrong doing. I will protect you even if it means threatening others (even if it's merely a formality). All these things are things that a true friend is. Let's look together at the kinds of friends. No, not the colleague, or social, or, passing by or whatnot. Notice I said kind, not type. The basic break down that pretty much all friends can break down into.
Bad friends: People you should likely not keep in your life but do. (I do my best to expel these types out as fast as possible. Cruel? Maybe, but why keep them if they are bad for you? It would be like choosing to drink mild poison everyday...eventually it's going to kill you.)
Fair weather friends: These are the people who will be there when times are good, but ditch when there's the slightest chance of storm. (Yeah, I do my utmost best to stay as far away from these as possible. To much heartache from broken promises and only breaks your trust in humanity that much more.)
Good friends: These are the people who stick around even when it gets a little difficult. (These are very much worth your time. If you're lucky, sometimes these become fierce friends.)
Fierce friends: These are the people who will help you hide a body, and terrorize those that threaten you. Often known as true friends. These are also often the non-blood related family. (Should you find one, hang on tight and don't let go, because neither will they.)
The first shouldn't even be around but are, second is unfortunately common, the third uncommon, but the fourth is rare. These are the people you hang on to no matter what. They will move Heaven, hell and everything in between to be there for you, and to help you. I am blessed to have a several of these kind of friends. They are rare indeed, but God found them and brought them to me. I have a lot of good friends as well.
So all this being said, the question that now sits out there to be answered is what kind of friend do you want to be? Me? I want to be the fiercest of friends. And that is who I aim to be for those in my life that I love. I will not apologize for it, and I will not back down from it. But that also means I will have to accept that there are those who won't like me because of it. There are those who will want to twist my loyalty, love, protectiveness and use it against me. This is not an easy thing to accept. It's something I'm working on right now actually. But I will have to let that go, and understand that just because I wish I could protect the people I love most from bad friends, that my friends have to make their own choices whether or not I like those choices. I also have to learn that sometimes those people want to use me, or twist my character to fit their own means, to even try to turn those I love against me. While I can do my best to let the truth shine, there are always those who want to smudge mud on something good. It's human nature. But I will do my best everyday to be the type of person who sees people for what they are, their character, what they could be, and make the call from there. It's the best I can do.
So who will you be?
You know how they say small waters run deep? That is me to a t. It's true I don't trust easily and I don't trust many people. I don't let people in, and once you've lost my trust it's nearly impossible to earn again. Possible, but very, very hard. While most would consider these faults there is a flip side to that. To have my trust is to have the fiercest of friends in your corner. One who is loyal to a fault, a straight shooter when you're wrong, who guards your back in a firefight, who supports you, who fights for you, who will never leave you when things get hard, who slaps you upside the head when you need it, who protects you against those who would do you harm, and who won't give you up without proof of your wrong doing. I will protect you even if it means threatening others (even if it's merely a formality). All these things are things that a true friend is. Let's look together at the kinds of friends. No, not the colleague, or social, or, passing by or whatnot. Notice I said kind, not type. The basic break down that pretty much all friends can break down into.
Bad friends: People you should likely not keep in your life but do. (I do my best to expel these types out as fast as possible. Cruel? Maybe, but why keep them if they are bad for you? It would be like choosing to drink mild poison everyday...eventually it's going to kill you.)
Fair weather friends: These are the people who will be there when times are good, but ditch when there's the slightest chance of storm. (Yeah, I do my utmost best to stay as far away from these as possible. To much heartache from broken promises and only breaks your trust in humanity that much more.)
Good friends: These are the people who stick around even when it gets a little difficult. (These are very much worth your time. If you're lucky, sometimes these become fierce friends.)
Fierce friends: These are the people who will help you hide a body, and terrorize those that threaten you. Often known as true friends. These are also often the non-blood related family. (Should you find one, hang on tight and don't let go, because neither will they.)
The first shouldn't even be around but are, second is unfortunately common, the third uncommon, but the fourth is rare. These are the people you hang on to no matter what. They will move Heaven, hell and everything in between to be there for you, and to help you. I am blessed to have a several of these kind of friends. They are rare indeed, but God found them and brought them to me. I have a lot of good friends as well.
So all this being said, the question that now sits out there to be answered is what kind of friend do you want to be? Me? I want to be the fiercest of friends. And that is who I aim to be for those in my life that I love. I will not apologize for it, and I will not back down from it. But that also means I will have to accept that there are those who won't like me because of it. There are those who will want to twist my loyalty, love, protectiveness and use it against me. This is not an easy thing to accept. It's something I'm working on right now actually. But I will have to let that go, and understand that just because I wish I could protect the people I love most from bad friends, that my friends have to make their own choices whether or not I like those choices. I also have to learn that sometimes those people want to use me, or twist my character to fit their own means, to even try to turn those I love against me. While I can do my best to let the truth shine, there are always those who want to smudge mud on something good. It's human nature. But I will do my best everyday to be the type of person who sees people for what they are, their character, what they could be, and make the call from there. It's the best I can do.
So who will you be?
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