New Years and What They Bring
Hello world,
I know it's been awhile but I thought since its New Years and all it was time for a post. I promise I be getting back into posting more soon as I will finally have internet back. This won't be like many of my past posts as I'd like to think that in some ways the past year I've grown, but bear with me as I stumble through my thoughts.
A new year. While the calendar says "Look, it's time to begin anew" time doesn't start over every year and the unresolved problems of last year are still present this year, still waiting to be solved. I just really finished bringing in the new year by watching a movie that was supposed to take place with a girl in high school. Oddly enough it had some similarities to my life. (I promise this will all make sense) While I've long since been out of high school, I seem to find that the people who thrived on drama then still do. Ironically I'm the one they call dramatic. Yes I have my dramatic moments but in general, I'm really not. It's often nothing more than a mask to keep people at bay. Just like high school. Only now the mask I find myself wearing is that of someone who is cavalier and carefree when the reality of it is, bloggers, underneath I'm wishing I could bottle up the pain of those around me and lock it away and bear it myself for them. Crazy I know, but I also know I'm the one who can take it and still wear a smile. Or At least one those who don't know me well will believe. "A true friend will see the tears in your eyes while the rest of the world believes the smile." A quote from a Facebook post a friend tagged me in. Good thing most of the time I can fool nearly everyone. Sometimes even those closest to me. "Grin and bear it." As the old saying may be, I think it's time we all realized that's got to be the dumbest saying on the planet. Well right up there with "sticks and stones may break bones but words will never hurt me." Forgive me but I cry BULL CRAPPY!!!!! (Insert chuckle and eye roll please.) Words do hurt. And so do the masks we wear. Then again so do the little "white lies" we tell make those around us feel better when we know things will get ugly if we don't. (And I'm the dramatic one lol) Maybe, and I do say maybe simply because I know this will cause a stir, it's time with the new year to start something new. Instead of letting things get us angry right off the bat, and causing hurt, misunderstandings and saying things that eventually were probably not the best thing to say at that moment, we take a moment to think and stop to assess what is really going on. Are we being manipulated, are we actually feeling whatever it is, is it legitiment or just us being spun up, or are we just being over sensitive? Once that's been analyzed, then proceed from there. And talk it out. Communication is key in all things. Yelling, screaming, over dramatic tears (real tears are awesome, let them flow, crocodile tears not so much), whatever it may be is not ok. Get out what you think but in a way that is not going to be hurtful. Yes they may still get hurt but TRY to be somewhat nice about it not matter how much you want to (insert violent behavior of choice) them. Seriously, it's not going to get any of us anywhere. I know I know I'm bat**** crazy, but perhaps it will work. Can't hurt to try right? Whether it's family, friends, acquaintances, people you don't really like or people you down right can't stand, they all deserve a chance to be heard. Yes even if they are wrong. Which you can put nicely, or agree to disagree. Life is to short to let things break apart relationships that are important to us.
While I'm totally probably going to get it for this post from some people, I believe strongly enough to post it. So my bloggers, here's to a new year and a new time to resolve those relationships that are important to us, and are worth fighting for. Even if time hasn't started over, perhaps we can start something new. Happy New Year Bloggers!
I know it's been awhile but I thought since its New Years and all it was time for a post. I promise I be getting back into posting more soon as I will finally have internet back. This won't be like many of my past posts as I'd like to think that in some ways the past year I've grown, but bear with me as I stumble through my thoughts.
A new year. While the calendar says "Look, it's time to begin anew" time doesn't start over every year and the unresolved problems of last year are still present this year, still waiting to be solved. I just really finished bringing in the new year by watching a movie that was supposed to take place with a girl in high school. Oddly enough it had some similarities to my life. (I promise this will all make sense) While I've long since been out of high school, I seem to find that the people who thrived on drama then still do. Ironically I'm the one they call dramatic. Yes I have my dramatic moments but in general, I'm really not. It's often nothing more than a mask to keep people at bay. Just like high school. Only now the mask I find myself wearing is that of someone who is cavalier and carefree when the reality of it is, bloggers, underneath I'm wishing I could bottle up the pain of those around me and lock it away and bear it myself for them. Crazy I know, but I also know I'm the one who can take it and still wear a smile. Or At least one those who don't know me well will believe. "A true friend will see the tears in your eyes while the rest of the world believes the smile." A quote from a Facebook post a friend tagged me in. Good thing most of the time I can fool nearly everyone. Sometimes even those closest to me. "Grin and bear it." As the old saying may be, I think it's time we all realized that's got to be the dumbest saying on the planet. Well right up there with "sticks and stones may break bones but words will never hurt me." Forgive me but I cry BULL CRAPPY!!!!! (Insert chuckle and eye roll please.) Words do hurt. And so do the masks we wear. Then again so do the little "white lies" we tell make those around us feel better when we know things will get ugly if we don't. (And I'm the dramatic one lol) Maybe, and I do say maybe simply because I know this will cause a stir, it's time with the new year to start something new. Instead of letting things get us angry right off the bat, and causing hurt, misunderstandings and saying things that eventually were probably not the best thing to say at that moment, we take a moment to think and stop to assess what is really going on. Are we being manipulated, are we actually feeling whatever it is, is it legitiment or just us being spun up, or are we just being over sensitive? Once that's been analyzed, then proceed from there. And talk it out. Communication is key in all things. Yelling, screaming, over dramatic tears (real tears are awesome, let them flow, crocodile tears not so much), whatever it may be is not ok. Get out what you think but in a way that is not going to be hurtful. Yes they may still get hurt but TRY to be somewhat nice about it not matter how much you want to (insert violent behavior of choice) them. Seriously, it's not going to get any of us anywhere. I know I know I'm bat**** crazy, but perhaps it will work. Can't hurt to try right? Whether it's family, friends, acquaintances, people you don't really like or people you down right can't stand, they all deserve a chance to be heard. Yes even if they are wrong. Which you can put nicely, or agree to disagree. Life is to short to let things break apart relationships that are important to us.
While I'm totally probably going to get it for this post from some people, I believe strongly enough to post it. So my bloggers, here's to a new year and a new time to resolve those relationships that are important to us, and are worth fighting for. Even if time hasn't started over, perhaps we can start something new. Happy New Year Bloggers!
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